Wedding day arrival is 2:30pm with a 3pm ceremony start time (real time - not Violetta time)

detailed itinerary here

There are hotels nearby as well as Airbnbs. If you would like to split an airbnb with other guests - let us know!

There is a limited housing on-site. The suites are reserved for our family with disabilities, limited mobility, and children. Single rooms are more plentiful!

If travelling from NYC:

By train: MetroNorth on the Hudson line to Ossining, NY from Grand Central or Harlem-125th Street. From the station, it is a short uber/lyft ride to the venue. For wedding day (Saturday) arrival we recommend taking the 1:23pm or 1:55pm train from Grand Central/1:34pm or 2:06pm train from Harlem (the venue will be open all day if arriving early). The last train leaves Ossining at 11:10pm .

By car: follow gps navigation to the venue. There is plentiful parking on-site.

By plane: fly into NYC and follow the above train instructions.

By boat: technically possible… good luck!

Our dress code is “comically formal”. Nothing is too wild. Costumes, hats, tails, bright colors, ball gowns, or high fashion are all encouraged (perhaps a change into comfy clothes for dancing). Don’t have anything in your existing wardrobe? Wear what you’ve got - try some accessories and kooky makeup!

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We have been together for over a decade and have the good fortune to have too much stuff. Please direct your generosity towards these mutual aid groups that do work important to us both.

Please feel free to reach out with any questions, concerns, or changes to RSVP. We want this to be fun and comfortable for everyone!

If you need to change your RSVP let us know ASAP (we have a strict guest-cap and 11 years of friends - we will invite someone off the sub-list to fill your seat).

frequently asked questions

we’ll update this as questions come through